CONTROLLING - REDUCING SEXUAL URGES IN HEALTHY WAYS

This topic of  uncontrollable sexual urges is a matter many people prefer to ignore, overlook or pretend does not exist.

Yet the collateral damage(s) as a result of lack of sexual control are huge, even staggering.

If lack of sexual control  happens with teenagers or uneducated people only, we can assume they just need to be prevented from the act till they grow up and the illiterates can just be sent to school or some training programmes that would instil discipline in them.

But we all know that even among the very highly educated, seemingly matured people, even those who know the law very well, who should be custodians of the rule of law, there are those who are fallible to uncontrollable sexual urges leading them to acts that they either regret or do everything within their powers to muzzle their victims.

Even among the clergy, there are those with uncontrollable sexual desires. If their religion or faith allows them to have multiple spouses they may hide under such to claim  they want to marry the person they are preying on if the target is unmarried. 

Yet some of the people with uncontrollable sexual desires still prey on those who are married.

They do not have the right to prey on anyone no matter the marital status of the person. Everybody has the right to refuse any advances they don’t want. But oftentimes the victims of those with uncontrollable sexual desires get victimised for refusing the advances. 

It would have been somewhat honourable if after revealing love interest in someone and the person declines, not to attempt to pressure the person. 

Some people whose faith do not allow more than one spouse often act like dare-devils when pressuring an unwilling person into sexual involvement with them.  The lies, the coercion, the use of resources that may not even be theirs to bribe those in the know into silence can only be imagined as they  go to any length to cover their tracks.

Worse still are those whose sexual urges are so uncontrollable that they are pedophilic-they sexually abuse children. 

The embarrassment a lack of sexual control causes to the person, to the victims, to their families and friends and within their community and to the outside world is often huge. Sometimes it is more than embarrassment- it destroys lives.

Yet most of the sexually-uncontrolled would rather have their wrong deeds covered up even while still aggressively doing such wrongs.

Is it that they are just being wicked, taking advantage of someone they think they can overpower or they just have difficulties controlling the desires?

Most often the answer is the latter  - they don’t know how to control it.

Those in authority over the sexual predator(s) that can penalise them and ought to keep them in check,  usually also do not know how  uncontrollable sexual desires  can be checked. So they are more sympathetic to the offender. They often prefer that the victim(s) keep quiet, find ways to escape being sexually-abused or suffer it in silence. 

Exposing the offender(s) would likely embarrass those in authority over them as well. Wouldn't it be better to prevent such acts than covering g up to prevent embarrassment? 

So should we just accept that some people have uncontrollable sexual desires, and just hope that our loved ones and we also wont fall prey to the sexual predators? 

Should we keep silent when we are directly or indirectly being victimised by sexual predators for refusal  of their sexual advances or personal involvement with them? 

We all know this must not be allowed to continue. How can  a person living or working or worshipping in a place be at ease where there are those who may lose control of their sexual urges and come at them...

What is the best thing to do? Deal with the actual problem of course  – best is to address that lack of control.

 So what causes inability to control sexual desires which normally all human beings have or have had or will have at some points in their lives? 

Apart from watching sexually-inciting visuals, listening to words or songs which can cause a surge in the desire, the actual cause is physical  and can be physically-remedied. 

If people can take medicine (conventional or herbal) to put mental stress, depression or any form of mental illness  in check, why can’t they take medicine or use equivalent healthy foods and drinks to put in check uncontrollable sexual desires?

To be continued 

ANOTHER WONDERFUL PLANT - THE FIG TREE - FICUS

There is this fig tree growing in a sack in my mini-garden. 

To practise this discipline of agriculture, I rear a few chickens as well. I usually carry out experiments on healthy and very cost-effective means of crop farming and livestock production. So I test-feed the chickens with alternatives including leaves.

Of all the leaves in the garden, I have noticed that these chickens love eating these fig leaves like kilode?- What is happening 

So when there isn't something readily available to feed the chickens with, I cut these fig leaves pending the time. 

My curiosity as a scientist then drew me into researching onthis fig plant. 

What I am finding is somewhat staggering - there seems to be no end to the numerous vitality of plants that we normally overlook.

This plant from searches is definitely  Ficus - a Fig tree - likely Ficus   umbellata.

According to ScienceDirect, the parts of a Ficus plant are 

… anti-inflammatory, anti-microbial, anti-oxidant, anti-diabetic, anti-arthritic, anti-stress, anti-cancer, hepato-protective, neuro-protective and wound healing …

So it is used in traditional medicine to solve  women hormonal issues.

It is also said by researchers to have

 potential benefits for air purification.

 Most Ficus plants which can also be used as decorative house plants have anti-tumour properties and potential for stress reduction. So you may sit close by it if feeling stressed. 

 

 In traditional medicine, 

Ficus umbellata is said to be used  in treating  leukoderma, leprosy, wounds, oedema, respiratory problems, diarrhoea, sexually transmitted illnesses, tuberculosis, anaemia, epilepsy, rickets, dysentery, male infertility, and gonorrhoea. 

The benefits I find most interesting and currently tweaking my medulla oblongata is that it can be used for

air purification as the leaves can absorb harmful indoor chemicals like formaldehyde, ammonia, and benzene, purifying the air or at least reducing effects of air pollution.

SNEAK-PEAK INTO MY MEDULLA-OBLONGATA 

You see formaldehyde, ammonia, benzene, though somewhat harmful are used in processing/preserving of some foods for human consumption - so I am thinking that that there is possibility that this Ficus plant leaves might be useful one way or the other in eliminating the harmful effects of  such processed foods prepared with those substances...how? I am trying to think but the thoughts of how male chickens constantly  harass female chickens is confusing me.

But what is even my business with those harrassments  happening in Animal Republic?

Silencing the oppressed is acceptable ONLY in Animal Republic...

HARASSMENT IN ANIMAL REPUBLIC 

Animals often attempt to show superiority by constantly harassing  other animals  or exploit the other animals, taking advantage of them 

Silencing the oppressed is acceptable ONLY in Animal Republic...

2025 INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

Empowering women  by  giving them the tools, education, and confidence to take charge of their own lives...not to be objectified, not to be denied rightful opportunities for not yielding their bodies in exchange 

#IWD2025

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SIMPLE SOLUTION TO WOUND, BODY HEALING- PITANGA (EUGENIA UNIFLORA)

Few months ago, I dashed out to do a bit of needful shopping. Alighting from the vehicle, I saw a vendor I sometimes  patronise - her eyes were  brimming with tears. Her little daughter - about 4 years old had picked a razor blade  while her mother was busy and had cut her little fingers. Blood was gushing out - so the mother - the vendor was  trying to remedy the situation by pouring water on the wounds - but the two fingers were still bleeding. 

Someone suggested getting kerosene to pour on the little girl's wounds to stop the blood - all sorts of suggestions were flying from bystanders.

Taking the girl to a nearby clinic or hospital would have been good but you do realise that part of the reason for the young mother's tears was the fact that the money she earned daily from her roadside micro-business wouldn't be enough for such expenses.

As I watched with concern, my heart also ached over the pains the little girl was feeling. But silver or gold for such expenses I had not but such as I had, I gave -  I remembered that I had in my bag a little bottle of an organic body lotion made from agricultural raw materials which I make and use as my regular body lotion. It has helped a whole lot in curbing the skin allergies and accompaning discomfort I used to experience. 

I would have commercialised this vital lotion but when I applied for grant funding to get the equipment needed and buy thei agricultural matetials  in bulk, I did not get the funding. So I just make small quantities at a time - the materials consist of spices, organic calcium source mixed with at least one natural oil  - coconut or olive or sinflower. 

I have also started infusing with Pitanga leaves which has antipyretic effects. This combo heals wounds fast  - no matter how deep the wound, just keep applying consistently and it will definitely heal.  It also reduces the pains considerably. 

Since all the ingredients are edible, this organic lotion  can be ingested. Sometimes when I am feeling some body discomforts (the causes I usually know from casting my mind back), I would take one or two drops of the lotion or put in my nostrils. Relieve would come in few minutes.

So I gave the tearful mother to apply on her daughter's bleeding wounds and poured some into a container for her to keep applying and left.

Some days later when the mother saw me passing by, she called me and said the lorion or ointment healed her child's wound.

The Ingredient in this lotion that currently excites me the most is the Pitanga - Eugenia uniflora. This plant initially sprouted on its own in my mini- garden. I didnt know its uses then but just noticed it has a nice scent. 

Since the lotion is not yet commercialised I just cut a  stalk of the plant and put the leaves in the container of my organic lotion  - my intention was just to give  my body lotion a natural nice scent not knowing it would further develop the lotion into a healing lotion - I noticed then that the lotion started healing wounds even faster.

So I decided to do a study on Pitanga plant - Eugenia uniflora

 Here are some of the findings - 

The genus Eugenia is used in popular medicine to treat wounds, flu, fever, cough, gout, hypertension, digestive, and hepatic diseases, rheumatism, amigdalitis, sore throat, hemorrhoids, and diarrhea (Arai et al., 1999; de Araújo et al., 2019).

 

USES OF PITANGA LEAVES, BARK AND STALK 

The infused leaves have diuretic, digestive and anti-diarrheal properties; a decoct made from the bark is used as a gargle for sore throats and as a remedy for other throat ailments.  

So I now cut the stalk and use in cleaning my teeth and gums - it relieves toothache. 

I still brush with toothpaste.

Some of the natural substances in Pitanga include

 

 - Anthraquinones

Can have antibacterial, antiparasitic, insecticidal, fungicidal, and antiviral properties. They can also be used as anticancer agents. Anthraquinones can also exhibit laxative, diuretic, estrogenic, and immunomodulatory effects. 

 

- Tannins

Can be natural substances with high antioxidant power. Recent scientific research has shown that tannins can contrast the activity of bacteria.

But until more research, when ingesting, use with discretion. I have avoided taking it as tea so as not to take in too much even though it is relatively safe.  

The leaves when dried is also very good in burning for use as insecticide.

Most times, the solutions to some life's problems are so simple.

FROM THIS MARCH, 2025...

Welcome to March 2025. In this 2025, if you or anyone under your care feels sick, try to find out the cause(s)- you know what you have been eating, drinking, using or doing, so that when you go for treatment, you won't be taking a gamble, perpetuating the problem while being treated. 

GAMBLE WITH HUMAN LIFE

Any treatment whether conventional medicine or herbal medicine that does not first identify the actual cause(s) of a disease is a gamble (with human life)  -  Oluyinka Alawode

BODY ACHES:- THE ACTUAL CAUSE(S)

 

Hardly is there anyone who has not experienced body aches and pains.

Aside your body being hit by someone or in an accident,  if you are asked the main or usual cause(s) of body aches, you would most likely say stress from overworking or overstretching the body.  

Wrong answer! If the body is overworked or overstretched, what you should feel is tiredness with need to rest, not aches, not pains.

You may have heard of people who slump during physical exercises. People conclude it is because they over-exerted the body - doing much more than their body can take. But if its just that alone, what should have happened is that they get very tired and unable to continue the exercise(s), not slump or die. 

But you may argue that it’s  because during the exercise(s) overstretching the body, the person felt intense body aches or pains that led to the slump. 

That may be true but the actual cause of the body pains or aches is not the rigorous exercises ,- it only amplified  the problem that body has been having.

There are those who also belong to the School of thought that body aches and pains are result of growing old - Error! Noooo!

Growing old shouldn't  cause body aches  if not for the actual causes.

So what then is the actual cause(s) of body aches? - the impurities – toxins in the body system- bloodstream -  the more they are, the more the body aches.

ILLUSTRATION

For example, a pipe was made specifically for the passage of clean or pure water at a certain speed. Let’s say the pipe has  different parts along its course similar  to the tissues, organs and joints in the human body or just simply imagine round sieves with joints holding them in place at different points in a circular pipe.

 As long as the water flowing through is pure and the pipe is clean, the water  will pass through smoothly. 

But when impurities, e.g. let's say sand  get into the water flowing through the pipe, there will be a slowing down in the movement of the water through the pipe. Not only that, the impurities -  in this example  - sand will cause some friction in the pipe  as the water is flowing through. If that pipe was a living thing, you can imagine the discomforts it would be feeling.

Moreover, some of the impurities will be deposited in some parts of the pipe like the joints (does that sound familiar to those who have experienced joint or arthritic pains?). 

Subsequently, if the pipe is not thoroughly cleaned, whenever the water is passing through those areas in the pipe, there would be discomforts. 

Likewise our bodies, like a broken record, I say again -  the carcinogens in the food, drinks, medicines or drugs, atmosphere, body-care products that get into and flow in our body system - bloodstream cause pains or body aches  because they were not meant to be taken into the body and are harmful. 

They cause obstruction to the smooth flow of blood and friction to the body organs and tissues and in the joints. 

You may say exercises and body massage will help the blood flow faster -  Yes, but will also help the carcinogens move faster causing aches in different parts of the body they touch and the aches may get so  intense that the body becomes too weak to function or slumps. 

Note: This is a food-health story, not a medical story. 

So every time you reach for that pain-killer or some other medicine to silence the pain or ache, know that if you don’t do something effective about the toxins getting into your system mainly through foods and drinks and those other means, you have not actually solved  the problem but postponed it. In fact, you may even have compounded it. 

 Try to Eat Clean.